Monday, March 9, 2009

The halfway mark

Well, as you find out quickly in pregnancy #3, you hit the halfway point alot sooner than you realize. Yesterday I hit the 20 week mark! Didn't I just discover I was pregnant yesterday??!! Apparently not, since this has come so much faster than the second time, and of course all you moms out there know that the first time drags on forever!! So today was the big doctor appointment, with ultrasound and all. Seeing that I'm such a planner and want all in place, in line and ready, most of you would probably be shocked that this time around I really don't want to know the gender of baby Willis #3. Now if I had 2 boys or 2 girls, I'd be dying to know, but since we have each is there really in need to know (not that the other ones "had" to be known either, but I just couldn't stand "not knowing"). But my husband on the other hand, he "can't stand" not knowing any of the times. So as of today our plan was....I go and he keeps our other small children, and have the tech "seal" the big news in an envelope for us to open together at some other special appointed time. I get more nervous at these appointments praying our baby is developing normally, and all looks good. So to look away as the tech looks at the gender, well, I was really fine "not knowing". So for now the wanted information is hidden away---not sure how long Casey will wait. For now I have him waiting for our special alone weekend coming up and hoping if he waits that long, maybe he'll realize it's not so bad to keep waiting. But I'm also not expecting that my desired outcome be his desired outcome, so I'll be ok at least somewhat creating a special memory of how we "found out" what baby #3 was---which makes it being either of the gender we already have a unique situation of his/her own!

6 comments:

  1. Ooohhh, don't open the envelope! It'll be so much fun? Did you get my email?

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  2. Noooo!!! OPEN IT, OPEN IT! I do understand wanting to have a special moment where you open it together. But I was such a freak about "being sure" it was a girl that I made the tech show me several times from different angles!!!

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  3. So fun!!! We didn't find out with William and it was the most incredible moment when he was born and Mark got to yell out with tears, "it's a boy!!!" it was such a special moment. HOWEVER.... :).....this time, I want to find out. Well, actually, I am torn, but for planning purposes, I want to know. Mark does not, but it being a good sport. :) So for now, the plan is to have our ultrasound on March 26th and have them write it down and then wait a week until my birthday, April 3rd, and open it then! I think it'll be such a fun and memorable birthday!! I just have to hold out for a whole week!!
    But I think you should wait and be surprised with baby #3.....since you've found out both times before try it this way! You won't be disappointed! :)

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  4. i am SO impressed that you all are "waiting" I DO NOT have that kind of control. way to go. but for my sake, and the sake of everyone else, PLEASE open that envelope! glad everything is ok.

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  5. I loved AJ telling me when Isaac was born that it was a boy. It was also fun to have everyone guess while you're pregnant. Most people guessed it right with us!

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  6. A gift of seasons past, we didn't have the technology to know so the joy/fun came at the time of the birth. Each time I gave birth to you and your 3 sisters, your dad and I somehow managed to get through 9 months not knowing. I will never forget the exact second daddy told me what gender our babies were....the pure joy was uncontainable. It always seemed to matter very little to me what gender baby, it was more about having a healthy baby (as I know it is for you and all your friends). So I hope you get to wait, there's no surprises this high tech culture are there????

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